Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Christian children's Books - Learning the 10 commandments can be fun! Join the adventure today.

Petal Flower

Do you want to teach your child about God? 

Here is a great series of books that will do just that. 

Adventures of Petal Flower: by Kristie L. Foreman 

This one book includes four stories. This book is part of a Christian Children’s Book Series – Have you been to the Meadow? Come on an adventure with Petal and her woodland friends. Petal would love for you to meet her friend Chippy. She gets into a bit of trouble when she spills the precious honey. She enters the Valley of the Shadow where she meets her friend Worry tree. What advise does Worry give her? Will Petal’s prayers help her now? Petal is not in full bloom and has no faith. Should Petal eat the juicy berries offered by poison Ivy?
Her sister has something to say about that. Give your child the ultimate reading adventure book. Learning life lessons with wholesome stories intertwined with God’s word. Each book includes a Biblical reference and questionnaire at the end. This enables the child to relate to their own feelings and discuss what they should do in the similar situation. It also lets them know what God said about each particular problem such as anger or fear. Petal learns about the ten commandments and says her prayers every night.
All are parts of a series of  books called Adventures of Petal Flower.
This book includes books 1-4
Book # 1 “Finding The Milk And Honey”
Book #2 “Where Two Or More Are Gathered.”
 Book #3 "The Truth Will Set You Free."
Book #4 "Many are Called Few are Chosen."
Give your child or grandchild the the most precious gift of God today.
Buy the books for your child - click here.

The Bumpy Road To Writing For Children

The Bumpy Road To Writing For Children Thanks to Deb Hockenberry for her review of these stories.

Wednesday, June 11, 2014

A boy named Jace

A poem for my Grandson
A boy named Jace
By: Kristie Foreman March 2013

There once was a boy named Jace.
Who had such a handsome face.
Jace wanted to be big like Daddy.
Daddy said “You can be what ever you want to be.”

One day Jace said, “ I want to go fishing.”
“Watch out.” said Daddy
“Be careful.” said Mommy.
Jace imagined he had his very own boat.
He caught a big fish.

Jace said, “I could be a lion tamer.”
He imagined he was fighting a big lion.
Daddy said “You can be what ever you want to be.”

Jace said “I want to drive a truck like Daddy.”
“Watch out.” said Daddy.
“Be careful.” said Mommy.
Jace imagined he was driving his very own truck.

Jace said I want to be a cowboy
He imagined riding his very own horse.
Mommy said, “You can be whatever you want to be.”

Jace loved apples
His sister liked frogs.
Jace wanted his very own frog.
He imagined he had a pet frog.
It jumped and jumped all over the house.
Watch out said Daddy.
Be careful said Mommy.

Jace wanted to play baseball.
He imagined he was on a real team.
What do you think Mommy and Daddy said?
Watch out said Daddy
Be careful said Mommy but...
you can be what ever you want to be.

The end.

You are welcome to read it to your child and enter their name.

Tuesday, June 10, 2014

How to Raise Compassionate Kids, Rather than Serial Killers


How to Raise Compassionate Kids, Rather than Serial Killers

Are You Raising a Serial Killer? -How to Instill Love and Compassion in Your Child.

I am sure the parents of any serial killer never planned on their child becoming a killer. Watching him take his first steps was innocent enough. What went wrong? How can you be sure that your child will not end up with similar ominous traits? After having 4 children I have learned a few lessons. I watched some of my nieces and nephews get into the wrong crowds. I watched the types of things that made my child's personality excited and disappointed. I watched as each child achieved their own small successes and talents. I have seen depression and elation. The following is a list of the some of the most important things you can do to ensure your child grows up happy, healthy and compassionate. Therein lies the key, compassion.  

Compassion - Empathy and compassion are highly important lessons for a child to learn. If they have no empathy for others, they don't care what happens to their fellow man or woman. Where do they learn to be good mothers or fathers? How do they know what is expected of them in society? Many people get married young and learn how not to act as they go, sometimes ending in divorce or abusive relationships. This can be avoided. Empathy must be taught. There are many ways for a child to learn empathy and compassion.
Role play can be an important teaching tool. The value of being in someone else's shoes allows the child to feel what the other is feeling. If your child has the opportunity to play different roles such as the good guy or the bad guy, the mother or father, the friend, sibling, the animal friend, the big bad tiger or the innocent bunny, they can relate to many different feelings. You would want to encourage different roles and not being the bad guy all of the time. Don't be afraid to pretend cry when the stuffed bunny gets smashed by the stuffed tiger. Tell the tiger that he hurt you and you (the bunny) need a hug to make it better. Change the play as soon as you achieve this. Let the animals go pretend eat together. Engaging in this role play teaches children the feelings of another. Make sure you show happiness and excitement when positive actions are displayed. Let the bunny dance. Let your inner child play too. Be the example.
Sibling rivalry can be difficult to deal with on a daily basis. Some parents unfortunately use one child to teach the another a lesson. Where is your line of “that is enough” or I draw the line here or there? Children need clear direction. Is it okay for them to fight it out? Are you playing referee too often? There are good aspects to learning cooperative play. There are limits to one child hurting another, mentally or physically. Children need to learn to choose their battles and learn from them just as adults do. Is this worth fighting for? Is this issue worth arguing over?
Is one child more fragile than the other? Knowing your child's state of mind and keeping up with their ever changing learning process has great value. Is there punishment for going too far in play when one gets hurt or do you just break it up? There needs to be a balance. If one child continues to bully the other into submission of their own wants, this needs to be addressed. The bully needs to understand that this behavior will not be tolerated. The second child needs encouragement of what they allow another person to do to them. Maybe their self esteem is low. My son would come to me and say, “I can't do that” I would immediately say “Oh sure you can” You can do that, no problem. I would give examples of how and he would do it. All he needed was someone to believe in him more than he believed in himself and he would achieve it. To this day he is successful in almost anything he does. Are you showing more attention to one child and not the other? Children pick up on your actions and feelings. They will copy your behavior. Are you causing a jealousy between the two children? Are you ignoring them?
Keep them busy - One thing I used to do is switch up the day as I would call it. The same behavior happens every time..., switch up the day. Find other things to do that switches the normal fighting triggers. Go for a walk, get into nature. Art projects can be a great self expression for children. You can see what is on their mind when you give them artistic freedom. Do they only use black crayons and only draw sad faces? Ask why? These behaviors can be because they like the color black but many clues like this can tell you if there are more serious underlying issues. Encourage happiness. Put music on that they like. Encourage fun. Children need downtime too. Too much boredom and too much excitement are both recipes for disaster. Reading can teach some good moral values if you choose the right books for them. Read to them. Talk about the story.
If you find you have competitive children. Let them compete in small things such as a race in the yard. Try to find things that both can win and both can loose. Keep a balance. Praise both children. It is okay for one to be good at one thing and one to be good at something else.
Be the Example You Want to See – Many parents hide their emotions from their children. Children need to learn how to handle their own behavior. The best example they have is you, good or bad. If they never see you cry or get upset, they may have only the television teaching them how to handle themselves. It is okay to be sad sometimes. On the flip side, children don't need to see you throwing things, cursing or badmouthing others. However it is okay for them to know you are not happy at the moment but it is not about them. Kids don't need to hear all of the details but parents get angry and sad too sometimes and they can comfort you to feel better. If you hide your feelings from them in turn they may hide their feelings from you. You can't help or advise them if you can't see when they needed your direction. Communication is vital. “Do as I say not as I do.” creates an untrusting, angry at authority, worker mentality child as opposed to raising a successful leader in society. One who is able to contribute to the good of the whole.
Communication – Check in often. What is going on with your child? How well do you know them? Many times kids surprise us when they blurt something out or they explain something. Where did you learn that? Ask, don't beat them up for sharing their feelings with you. Discuss, teach and explain why. Many parents don't think you should have to explain reasons why to a child. The more equipped they are with the why the more they value your direction. Showing them later that this could have been avoided if they had listened to you, the more they see and value your direction. They tend to trust you more. They understand you are not just being mean but that there is value in your directions.
Protection – The level of strictness in a family is subjective. Do you want to beat them up so they can handle anything or are you going to only show love and let the world toughen them up? Once again balance is crucial. If they cry every time a boss yells at them they won't be able to hold a job. If they get angry and mistreat their coworkers or boss how can they earn a living? If they let a spouse control their every move, this doesn't make for a happy, healthy, long term relationship. Showing love can be explained in many ways. Getting to know your child lets you know the level of strictness they may need. If they have heard you yelling too many times they may tune it out. If you have spanked your child so often it will break down their spirit and they have no will to achieve on their own when they are grown and you are no longer there to spank them. As a matter of fact they can become angry, even worse, silently angry. This can lead to a kind of payback mentality. They secretly plan to make someone pay for the pain they are feeling and this is dangerous. Showing only kindness and letting your child walk all over you can result in a spoiled child. When they grow up and don't get their way they act out. So keeping this balance is so very important. We want to protect them but you must set limits with consequences that are not out of balance and show true love at the same time.
Protecting your child to age appropriate things is important to raising a successful adult. In this day and age we have systems we can put into place that help to ensure a healthy mind. We can block inappropriate television or internet sites. If our children become desensitized to things that should shock us if it were real, they will look for more thrill and shocking behavior. They can develop a craving for more shock and awe in a negative way. Kids aren't aware of what they can handle. They can't process those things yet. You have to be the one that filters these things for them. We can encourage game play that is age appropriate. Children's minds are in a developmental stage. What are you letting them learn? What goes in to their little brains comes back out at their world and the people in it. Are they learning to fight from the video games or are they learning to use their brain for fun math games? Are they learning science at fun internet sites? Are they learning about dinosaurs or are they learning to kill from the movies they are watching? You are the only one to protect them. Help them to become healthy minded citizens. You are the role model. You are the one that is in charge of this. Keeping them busy with healthy child activities just might keep them out of dangerous activities.
Playing the Victim – I have seen many parents never hugging or showing love unless the child is sick or hurt. This can send the wrong message that they only get affection if they are sick. The child will become sick just to get their love and affection needs met. Some actually start to believe they are sickly or hurt. I have seen kids act out in negative ways to get attention and love from their parents. Giving and showing love on a regular basis can prevent this. A bicycle wreck that skins the knee of our little tough guy needs love. Check it, give a little love, then tell them it will be okay. This is harmless to do. This is their level of age appropriate trauma. Help them through it in a healthy way. Calling them names never does any good for their self esteem.
Belief System – When children are young we entertain and enhance their imagination. Whether it is Santa Claus, the tooth faery, the Easter Bunny, these things are outgrown. What is your belief system? A better question is what is their belief system? If they don't believe in God what are they believing in? Trust me, if they are not guided they will follow a belief system of some kind. Do they see their cup half full, half empty or are they grateful they have a cup in the first place? Our abilities to help to give them a positive attitude and self confidence will influence their attitude toward life.
Do you believe most people are basically good? Many parents become cynical due to stressors they have experienced. Your child has not experienced these things and may have a complete opposite experience. Are you giving them unhealthy rules because of your life experiences? Holding them back with too many restrictions may be just as detrimental as too much freedom.
Trauma in a child's life can be devastating and drag on emotionally through their entire life. Bad things can happen to good people. This doesn't mean it has to ruin their entire life. Talk about it when your child is ready. Ease into it but be available if they need you. Reach out to professionals if it is needed.
Developing a good moral character and helping them to become confident is one of the greatest things you can do for your child. As children get a bit older and obtain more privileges to be in public and we trust they are going to a safe environment, we let them go just a bit. Encouraging them to not do things they will be sorry for later is important. Reputations are important for social acceptance. They don't have to be the daredevil. They need to hear this. They do not have to give in to things others want them to do. Once again communication is vital. They need to know you trust them to do the right thing and that you are available if they need you. Role play is also okay to do here. Ask questions about what they may do if they were approached by others to act in a way that is unbecoming to their moral character. Children need to be treated with respect just as much as adults do. They need a sense of pride while thinking of others too.
One day I began to speak to my son after he was grown and he stopped me and asked me, “Mom, is this a life lesson?” I was offended at first. He laughed and I said “As a matter of fact it is.” You are not too big and grown up to hear what your mother has to say.” We both laughed and I did continue but made it a quick conversation and told him “What kind of mother would I be and what would I do if I stopped sharing and caring for you. It doesn't stop just because you are grown. I hugged him and told him how proud I was of him and much I loved him. At that moment I felt he understood I was not just nagging at him all those years. I wasn't just being mean or a softy. He got it. He knew I was looking out for his best interest out of love for him. That is a small moment between us that I cherish.
It is all worth it. It is great to see how they grow and how you helped them become healthy, happy adults. Take time, check in with them often, keep a balance, watch them, learn what they like and don't like. Find out how they feel about what you say to them. Include them in your life and protect them from the world until they can make their own decisions. Take a stand for their moral character. Love them all along the way and show it. Praise them and give positive attention. Explain the why, have fun together, teach and be there for them. Give them the tools to grow into someone they can be proud of. You will not be sorry.
Let me know in the comments below what you think about this important topic.


Written by: Kristie L. Foreman
Author of Adventures of Petal Flower
Christian children's book series.
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Monday, June 9, 2014

Are You Christian In Public?

Are you a Christian in public?

I came to a time in my life when I had to decide I would be for God or not.  What did that mean?  I had to decide to stand up for Him.  I wasn't sure how to do that.  Sometimes it is clear others are not open to hearing about my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.  God gave us something called discernment. Hebrews 5:14 "But strong meat belongeth to them that are of full age, even those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil."

You may want to shout it from the rooftops, that doesn't mean anyone will listen. You can discern when people are not open to Him. You can tell when others have ill will toward you.  God said in the Bible in Mathew 7:6  "Don't throw your pearls to swine".  I think of this when others are not being so nice or trying to trick me in some way.  I have come to listen to that little voice that says "No now would not be the time."
I have a friend that is not a Christian.  She never wants to hear about God.  That is her choice. This does not change me.  I love God and He loves me. You have to decide who you are and be proud of it.  Find out where you gauge is.
If we have non-Christians on one end of the gauge and evangelist believers on the other, where would you be?  Do you pray in public? How much is too bold or pushy? One thing I have learned is you cannot hide the God in you.  He pours out of you in many ways. You are an example for others even if you were not trying to be.  While living my life, God finds a way of showing himself then I have to stand up for Him.  This is uncomfortable sometimes.
Don't underestimate the power of God.  Take a leap of faith and let Him shine through you.  Where is your gauge?




Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Post of encouragement for writers

Today I received my work in paperback form in the mail.  Years in the making, finally came to be. There are very few times in my life that the feelings can compare.  Oh sure I got married, I have had children and publishing this book ranks just as high on my list. I wanted to take a minute to encourage others whether your book is in the works or already published and you are working on another.
Today I don't even care if anyone buys it. I just want to bask in the feeling of a great accomplishment. Tomorrow I may work more on marketing but today is for celebrating.  So I say to all the writers out there as Kermit the Frog would sing.  "keep believing, keep pretending, soon you find out just what your supposed to do."  I want you to feel this feeling too.  I hope and pray you continue. Keep heart that whatever you are working on does pay off. Have a great day!
Kristie L Foreman
http://www.adventuresofpetalflower.com


Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Who can find a virtuous woman? - One of my favorites


KJV Proverbs 31:10-31
 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price [is] far above rubies.


22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing [is] silk and purple.